Big Feelings Are OK, by Nicola Ahern
Gentle books for the moments your child finds hardest.
Park exits. Screen time. Changed plans. Bath time. One story, one real moment.
No diagnosis needed. No promise of perfect behaviour. Just gentle support.
βLovely book worth its weight in gold xβ- Amanda
Does this sound familiar?
You've given the warnings. You've tried to stay calm. And the moment still feels too big for both of you.
- βFive more minutesβ still ends in tears.
- The tablet goes off, and the whole evening changes with it.
- A small change of plan can undo the whole day.
- Bath time has quietly become the hardest part of the evening.
- A loud party or busy place tips things over fast.
Your child isn't giving you a hard time. They may be having a hard time.
Help for the moment, not just the feeling
Many feelings books teach children to name happy, sad or angry. Big Feelings Are OK meets families in the exact moment those feelings show up. Each story gives the child a character who understands and the family a simple idea they can practise together.
Situation-specific
One recognisable everyday challenge per book.
Practical
A simple tool is woven into the story rather than added as a lecture.
Inclusive
No diagnosis is required and neither child nor parent is blamed.
One story. One familiar moment. One gentle tool.
- 1
Choose the moment
Start with what your family is finding hardest right now.
- 2
Read while things are calm
Let the character introduce the situation before it happens again.
- 3
Reuse the shared tool
Return to the same words, breath or small routine when the moment arrives.
Free download
The Big Feelings Calm-Down Kit
A printable you can use together tonight to make one difficult transition feel more familiar and predictable.
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One question at a time
Which moment is hardest for your family right now?
Not a test. Not a diagnosis. Just a starting point.
Every book, one moment
Jump straight to the moment your family is in
Each title tackles one exact everyday moment. Tap a book to read the full page and see the Amazon listing.
- It's Time to Leave the ParkPark exits without a meltdownRead the book page β
- No More Tablet TimeEnding screen time calmlyRead the book page β
- Bath Time Is ComingBath-time refusalsRead the book page β
- When Plans ChangeSudden changes of planRead the book page β
- It's Time to Go NowLeaving anywhere funRead the book page β
- When Things Feel Too LoudLoud, busy placesRead the book page β
- A Calming Sensory StoryOverwhelm and sensory overloadRead the book page β
- When We Make MistakesPerfectionism and mistakesRead the book page β
- The Feelings RemoteNaming and calming feelingsRead the book page β
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Common questions
οΌIs this only for autistic or ADHD children?
No. The stories are written for any child who finds these everyday moments hard. No diagnosis is needed.
οΌIs this just another general feelings book?
Each book focuses on one exact everyday moment, rather than teaching emotions only in the abstract.
οΌWhich book should we start with?
Start with the moment your family is finding hardest right now. The book finder can help you narrow it down.
οΌWill a book stop meltdowns?
These books cannot promise that. They offer a gentle shared way to prepare for a hard moment, alongside whatever else works for your family.
οΌDo we need the whole collection?
No. Begin with one story that matches the current struggle and add another only if a new moment becomes important.
οΌWhere do I buy the books?
Every book page links directly to its verified Amazon UK and/or Amazon US listing. No payment is taken on this website.
Start with the moment your family knows best
You don't need every book, and you don't need a diagnosis. Just begin with the one story that matches what feels hard right now.
Big feelings are allowed. So is asking for a bit of help.